“Play with it over the clitoral hood instead,” says Vrangalova. “For many, the clit itself is too sensitive for direct stimulation. See how your partner responds, then try for the clitoris directly.”
Hall suggests you start light with a slow increase in pressure. “Using a flat tongue, slowly lick upward along the opening of the vagina, circling the clitoral hood,” she says.
Don’t Be Afraid to Experiment
Some vulva-owners like the licking motions more, some prefer sucking and others enjoy gentle biting or beard rubbing. To figure out which your partner prefers, Vrangalova recommends you experiment with different strokes and listen to your partner’s reactions. When you find a rhythm that works, stay consistent and do not change it too often.
Beware of Beard Burn
“Everyone is different, of course, but I’d say that a beard might be most of a negative issue when it’s a stubble because it can really scratch the vulvar area in an unpleasant way for many people,” suggests Vrangalova. Continue reading